Do people change after marriage?

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Tying the knot is a momentous occasion, signifying a lifelong commitment and the blossoming of a new family unit. But what about the individuals within that unit? Does marriage fundamentally alter who we are?

Several factors can influence how people change after marriage. Here are just two key considerations:

Shared Lives, Shared Goals: Marriage often ushers in a period of intense couple-centricity. Psychology Today states that partners may prioritise shared goals, like buying a house or raising children, which can impact their individual pursuits.

External Pressures: Societal expectations and family dynamics can also play a role. A partner may feel pressure to conform to certain roles or expectations after marriage.

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It's important to remember that change is inevitable throughout life, not just in marriage. However, marriage can provide a unique environment for personal evolution. Here are some tips for navigating this shift:

Maintain Individuality: While building a life together, nurturing your individual passions and interests is crucial. Make time for hobbies and social connections outside the marriage, according to Psychology Today.

Open Communication: Honest and open communication is key to a healthy marriage. Discuss your hopes, dreams, and anxieties about how your lives might change after marriage.

Embrace Growth: See change as an opportunity for personal development, not a loss of individuality. Celebrate each other's growth and support each other's goals, reports Forbes.

Marriage is a beautiful journey of companionship and growth. By acknowledging the potential for change and fostering open communication, couples can navigate this transition with grace and understanding.
15 May 2024 English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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